We are now in 2018, here’s to being successful the best way we know how.
Let Celebrate what we left and what we gained.
I’m thankful that we got through another year and thankful that even though it was tough we can say we made it.
I say 2018 I’m ready for whatever you have in store.
Happy New Year,
Have you ever felt fearful of something? Have you ever allowed your fear to keep you from doing something? I always use to allow my fear of what others might think of me to overshadow what I felt on the inside. Others opinions on me would make me change my mind about something I felt so strongly about that it would cause me to feel like my own thinking process was not acceptable. So I started to question my ability to make logical decisions and more.
When I started to see a pattern of the fear of others opinions. I had to take a second to reevaluate the situation I had gotten myself in. As I was starting to see that not everyone was built to be the same. I started to embrace the fact that I was different. People’s opinion no longer matters and I started to neglect the fear I had picked up. Fear is considered to be something that happens when you can’t figure out what would work best for you. I call it the fear of uncertainty because you don’t want to offend anyone by being yourself but also want them to like you for you. I was caught between those two choices. When I figured out I was at my best by being me and it was just my fear of not being accepted. I stop allowing people to dictate my choices and make the proper decisions for myself.
Here’s what I want you to do when you feel like your fear is consuming you:
- Stop allowing your fear to keep you from doing what your heart knows is right for you.
- Stop allowing others get into your head and tell you can’t-do something because they are afraid that you might be more successful at it. If you feel like those people are holding you back keep your distances and allow yourself the chance to try what you feel so strongly about.
- Never give someone the satisfaction of knowing they have a say in what you do especially when it’s to better your future.
- Allow yourself the chance to be a better you by trying something different.
- Focusing on being the best you possible.
In this world, people try to throw negative stones at you because they are afraid of you leaving them behind. They want you and them to be on the same page for as long as they think it benefits them. To them, you are never supposed to grow. Especially if they feel like you have more to gain then they do. In some ways, it’s their fear of being overshadowed. Never allow someone to make you feel guilty or fearful of making a choice they could have made themselves. Everyone has the same 24 hours how they live that 24 hours it’s their business. You should never have to feel like you have to give up on your hopes and dreams to fit in. Start your own crowd.
Another thing, never allow other people to project their failures on you. The worst thing you can do is allow someone throw their failures at you. You are allowed to make your own mistakes. No one can tell you how to live out your destiny. Everyone’s destiny is different. Your path is made for you not the people around you. So when your fear takes over you are distancing yourself from that destiny. Fear is just your way of saying I’m ready. What are you ready for?
Have you ever just thought about how far you have come? or Have you ever just sat in a chair, looked around a room and said to yourself “WOW, if someone would have asked me five years ago would I be where I am today, I would have probably looked at them crazy “. Whether you go to an office or you are taking that first step into a passion of yours. There is something to be said about growth. When you are able to see the growth, you begin to feel hope. This is called Growth comes with hope. I learned a long time ago that you need some form of hope to be able to grow as an individual. Nothing can be worse than losing hope on something you desperately want and you fail at because you lose hope in it.
When I first started college, I was so nervous that I was walking with less hope because it was something new. “I have never been here before” I kept telling myself. I wasn’t hopeful and I was extremely timid about walking into this new surrounds. All my life, I had my mother to push me now I had to push myself. When I say it was the scariest thing in the world. It was literally the scariest thing in the world. Walking into this big building with no friends or my protective shelter, it was just little ole me. I’m going to give you a glimpse into my first semester. My first class was an African Studies class and I had to give a speech at the end of the semester that meant standing up in front of my fellow classmate and talking for about 20 minutes. When I say I wanted to pass out, literally wanted to fall on the floor. My heart was beating in my ears, my hands were shaking, my voice cracked. Random thoughts running through my head. I was losing hope about this college thing fast.
What made me gain hope again was due to the fact, I was prepared before everyone else. I think we got the e-mail two nights before the presentations were set to take place and I started as soon as I got the e-mail and was done the next day. I was not worried about doing the work. I was worried about talking in front of my classmates. These are people I’ve never met before and I had never given a speech in my life. So when it came time to give the speech I allowed my nervousness to get the best of me. So here’s how I got my confidence back, I close my eyes, gave myself a pep talk and proceeded to give my speech with my shaking hands. I was the first one which I learned in future classes that normally the first one sets the bar for every person that comes after them. I also got my 5 extra points and by the end of the semester, I completed that class with an A.
When I saw that A, I had never wanted to kiss a grade so badly. Lol. I was so sure I did terribly, it did take me a moment to get those words flowing. I was so sure he was going to take points off. Here’s where the growth part of my story comes in. After I conquered the African Studies class I was determined to not let my nervousness get the best of me again. I found out that I had to take a speech class as an elective, As a way to prepare myself, I signed up for it my second semester. I grew skills to prepare for anything. For every semester after that, I pick up new skills to help me complete college within a two-year period. This is why I say growth comes with hope. If I had not done that speech and stood in front of my fellow classmates, I would probably have let my hope dwindle little more each day. Out of all the things I’ve done I have to say college has taught me the most. You have to be willing to take that first step and allow yourself to believe you can do anything.
Hope = Growth.
DON’T LOSE HOPE YOU HAVE THE STRENGTH TO KEEP PUSHING ON.
Tell me a time when you felt hopeful and tell me how has it helped you grow?