As we approach October, I’m thinking about all the memories that will be made this year. When I think about Halloween, I personally love to see children getting dressed up with their pumpkin baskets and saying trick or treat. Watching the different Halloween movies that are televised on ABC Family which is now Freeform and Disney Channel. One of my favorite Halloween movies is It’s the Great Pumpkin, Charlie Brown. It’s become a tradition to watch it every year when it comes on ABC. These were some of my favorite memories growing up. I remember as a little girl, My mother taking me door to door to get candy with my costume on. I even remember that every year I wanted to be a ghost. I didn’t have creativity back then. Until one year she said let’s try something different and she painted my face and I went as a clown. I had so much candy that year. To the point of my mother saying, “you are going to have candy coming out of your ears”. Now that I’m older that was kinda funny.
Another thing, I love about Halloween is that it’s in the season of Fall, not to mention my birthday is the next day. So while you are trick or treating you can still see the different trees colors that still looks amazing at night. Also in the Fall, it’s not so cold. It also depends, if the weather will cooperate. You never know what you might get and especially living in good’ole NYC you never know what mother nature has up her sleeve. One October we got snow, yes snow. It’s was in the early part of October but it was a bit of surprise. Something else I really enjoy about Halloween is the fashion it was always a surprise to see what the next kid would be wearing. I thought it was cool to see what my neighbors would wear or whenever I went to school some of the kids would come dressed up in their costumes. There were a few daredevils who would throw eggs at people which kinda made me want to stay home every Halloween after. To close, I would say all the things I mention made Halloween fun and it gave you something to look forward to after a long day of school or work.
Do you have a favorite memory of Halloween if so, Please share? I would love to hear about it. Also, what was the weather like when your favorite memory took place?
Have you ever wondered why you follow certain pages on Instagram? I have come to the realization I only follow interior design and quotes pages. I enjoy seeing different home interiors. It gives me a vision of what I may want to do to my own home someday. Which also plays major a part of me thinking about my future. You may say”This is how I would like my living room or this is how I would love for my kitchen to be designed.” I have grown a custom to seeing design and quote pages so much that it brings me a sense of ease when I see them on my feed. As for the quotes pages, I follow mostly positive and spiritual pages. There is more than enough negativity going on in this world and I would much rather see the positive so the negative is not affecting my mood.
The quote pages I’ve followed speak life into my soul. I don’t follow things that have a negative impact on my mood because I’ve come to understand one picture or word can put a dimmer on the light that is supposed to shine brightly. Let’s face it, in this day and age words and pictures can cause some troubling thoughts. There is nothing worse than seeing something on your feed that changes your whole mood. This also goes to show you how social media has an impact on everything and everyone. Just think about it, what’s is the first thing you do in the morning when you wake up. I love social media but sometimes and it can be a bit much. There is nothing wrong with just taking a break and checking self.
I say all this to say, take a look at your feed. Do you follow a particular person because they add value to your life or do you follow them because they inspire you to be a better you? What about the other pages you follow? Do you follow them because they bring humor to you, everyone needs humor or do you follow them because you just want to be part of the pack? I have a couple pages on my feed that I unfollowed because they were not bringing value or inspiration into my life. Sometimes you just need to unfollow certain people and pages. Tell yourself, There is no room for that negative energy in your life.
My challenge for you is to take a look at your social media feed and ask yourself why do I follow a certain page or a person? If you can’t come up with a logical reason, I challenge you to unfollow.
There is this saying that continues to repeat itself in my head. It goes something like this, “Positive mind equals positive heart.” For a while, I couldn’t understand what this saying was signaling to me. Every morning I would wake up and it would repeat itself. So two days ago I decided to write those words down in my notebook. As I was looking at these five words in front of me something hit me. When you have a positive mind your heart is full of nothing but joy. Here are some side effects of a positive mind:
You function better
You think clearer
Happiness is at an all-time high
Smiling at complete strangers and the list goes on.
Let’s focus on the word positive. When you say positive, what is the meaning that comes to mind? There are two definitions but the one I want to focus on is with no possibility of doubt. To me, that means you wake up with a mindset that says I’m not letting anything stand in my way. No matter obstacle, people’s opinion you will continue to move forward because you made the choice to be positive. I personally think positive minds are beneficial because they eliminate the things that are not suppose to be in your life. A Positive mind starts to reveal certain things to you. Have you ever realize that when you speak positively that people who once enjoyed your company tend to shy away from you. They call less, they invite you places less to them your just no fun to be around anymore. Don’t look at this as a bad thing. Look at it as an excellent thing. Positivity eliminates people who have a negative vision. You are sending signals that are saying your negative energy has no place here. So remove yourself.
As I get older, I start to look at things with a positive mind instead of not trusting my judgment. I’m starting to believe in the fact that you need to focus on the positive more instead of thinking about the negative. When I started this blog, I’m not going to lie my mind was racing before I hit the publish button because I was allowing myself to think of all the what-ifs. I know you are wondering how did I stop those thoughts? Well here is how I did it. I started thinking of the positives. In my mind and heart, I feel like I’m giving someone a voice or that push that someone needs. Sometimes it’s your fear that can lead others to unprecedented heights. To me, that was all the positive I needed to push the publish button. Now I wake up with a mission to touch a few more each and every day. You may not think a positive mind has an effect on others but it does. Just take a moment and think about how you feel when you come in contact with a grumpy person. Their mood affects yours. A positive mind works the same way. Here’s my challenge for you. Whenever you feel like you want to look at the negatives I challenge you to see the positives first. For some, that can be a challenge but for others, it comes naturally. Try it.
We are soon going to enter into the fall season. *Inserts happy music.* This is when you start to see some of the most beautiful colors and people start to walk with some of most fashionable clothing known to man. To me, fall is one of those calming seasons. The fall season represents the change from hot to cool. I can’t express how exciting it is to walk through the neighborhood when all the trees are yellow, Orange, with little bits of green. It’s so beautiful to look out the window of my apartment and see the process of the changing season. If you are like me and have a birthday in fall you will be even more excited. I remember when I was little I would get so excited because I knew that fall would bring Holloween and loads of candy. Another exciting holiday in fall is Thanksgiving. My family and I would get together and enjoy each others company for Thanksgiving. Yes, I know we are still in Summer but by the end of the week, the calendar will say fall. Here is my encouragement to you take a minute and enjoy the beauty that is in front of you. We can get so caught up in working so hard that we forget to take a moment and breath. Life has a way of showing you what you need and sometimes it can be a change of season or it can be something that you never knew you needed. Tell me your take on the fall season?
When I graduated college, my Mother was going around the neighborhood and telling complete strangers who would listen that her baby graduated college. I, on the other hand, was so embarrassed. I would run into someone in the neighborhood and they would say “Congratulations”. With a completely confused look on my face, I’d stare back at them not sure what the congratulations are for. Then the sentence of embarrassment would be said: “Your mother told me you graduated”. At this point, I’d say humbly thanks or thank you and try to get out of the conversation as soon possible. As I’m walking down the street, thinking to myself why does she keep telling everybody? What I didn’t realize was my mother was celebrating my accomplishments for me. (Not a bad thing). I was afraid of what people might think if I was too excited about an accomplishment I had conquered. I never realized that what I went through before going to college was just a way of showing how strong I am. So getting through college was a way of showing just how resilient I was. To me, if you come from troubled backgrounds, struggle with different challenges with learning, or people telling you can’t-do something that you’ve set your heart on and then you conquer it. You honey just achieved an accomplishment that you should be proud to celebrate.Stop worrying about what people think.I had a hard time with celebrating accomplishments because I had people in my inner circle that I didn’t want to offend or make them feel like I was bragging. All the while, dimming my own light because I didn’t want to lose someone in my circle. What I realize when not speaking of those accomplishments you can’t see how far you’ve come because you are not celebrating you. Don’t be too busy celebrating others and forget to celebrate you. I made that mistake. I always want to see everybody in my life or outside of my life do good. Whether it was them getting a new job, growing their family, or just making a step to becoming a better individual. I was their cheerleader. All the while forgetting to be my own. So here is my motivation to you. You can wish others well but don’t forget to wish yourself well in the process. Stop dimming your light.SHINE AS BRIGHT AS YOU LIKE!!!!!
What is stress? Stress is the importance, significance, emphasis placed on something. Here is my story on how I stressed my self out throughout my school years. I was one of those students that would stay up for hours to complete assignments that would have probably taken a genius a couple of minutes to complete. I on the hand was trying to make sure I did the assignment to perfection. I had to learn the hard that stressing myself to point of staying up all night and getting up the next day was not the best thing for a student trying to excel in one of hardest fields. Computers are a subject that needs your full attention when the professor or teacher is speaking because a slight mistake could cost you some vital information and cause a very expensive problem. Just like with doctors and nurses they have to fully pay attention to what’s in a patients chart. You can’t give a patient who has sugar food with sugar in it because that could be a deadly mistake. With electronics, it’s no different. So I say all this to say when you are physically tired don’t be like me and stay up all night knowing that you need to focus the next morning. Go TO BED!!! Tell me a time that you was stress?
When I think of encouragement, I think of confidence in one’s ability to complete a task that has been giving to them. Throughout my high school years, my dear mother was that encouragement. As well as many others that came into my life in that short period of time. My high school years was a little crazy but I still had the encouragement of the people who wanted to see me excel. For the remainder of my high school years, I was homeschooled with two teachers and a tutor that became what I considered to be my encouragement team. These were the people that knew me when everything was falling apart before going off to college and completing what many people thought I could not do. So when I say encouragement is something that will keep you moving in the right direction it will. I’m living proof of what having the right people in your corner can do for you. Yes, it will take some effort on your part but I’m pretty sure you can work up the strength to go the extra mile. Who are your encouragement team members?
Passion is described as a strong and barely controllable emotion. Now when I ask you what you are passionate about you will say…… Think about what you wanted to be as a kid. Some children will say a doctor, lawyer, basketball player but when it comes time to follow that dream that passion changes to something else. My passion was to be a teacher then I realized I loved electronics. So I went to school for computers. Now my passion is to see how I can change people’s mindset. So my passion has changed a little. In today’s world, we will find many things that we enjoy but there is only one thing we are passionate about.Let me know what you are passionate about?
Whether you wake up in the morning, afternoon, or evening there is something that motivates you. I’ll tell you what motivates me. I’m able to get another chance at trying to be a better me. To me, is motivation enough. Don’t get it confused, I do have my moments when I don’t feel like moving or I don’t want to be bothered. I’m human but sometimes I realize that my journey to getting as far as did helps me understand the meaning of motivation. We as humans need things to motivate us to keep moving. Great!!!!! What better motivation than to find something your so passionate about and turning that into something that makes you smile. 😊 Even if it means taking a break and recharging our batteries we always come back to that thing. Something in us will never let us lose that motivation. So here’s a challenge dig deep into your soul and find what motivates you to get up.
Undefined Love is something we all have within us as a human race. It doesn’t matter if you are a daughter, son, husband, wife, mother, father, grandmother, grandfather we all have undefined love. I started this site thinking about my mother’s love for me. Along my high school years, my mother had to fight to help me attained a high school diploma. Many people who were apart of my inner circle did not know what I went through as a high school student who was denied the right to receive my high school education. With my mother’s undefined love I was able to do that and more. My hope for this site is that it gives others the courage that my mother gave me when I felt like I didn’t have anything left to give.