Here’s how I feel about this topic. When you have an understanding of what you want from your life, you don’t have to explain it to others. 

I’ve come to understand that people will want you to explain everything to them so they can be part of your circle. Not everyone deserves to be part of your circle.

Have you ever heard of the saying some people are meant to be in your life for a season?

I’m a true believer that some people are meant to be in your life for a season. When you start feeling like you have to explain yourself to people who can’t be happy for your growth or your success because they feel like you changed. Here’s the thing, You’ve outgrown them! point blanket period.

Those are the people who are only meant to be in your life for a season.

When you feel like they have something negative to say about how far you have come.

And when your feelings have changed about hanging out with them.

That’s when you know you’ve outgrown them. 

It’s never a mistake to grow, it’s only a mistake to feel like you have to hold yourself back to make other’s feel comfortable.  

Let me ask you this If you were giving a job opportunity to move up in your career and that means your not able to hang out as much with your friends.

So they start to feel like you’ve abandoned them. 

They start to complain about how you’ve changed and you don’t come around as much any more etc.  We’ve all been there.

Here’s A question:

Are you going to resign from your job?

I’ll wait………..

Here’s the answer:

I don’t think so. Especially if you’re going to make enough money to get that dream house or car you’ve been eyeing. 

So why should you resign from making your life better or feeling guilty about making the right choices for you?  

Here’s another solution:

Stop explaining yourself and do what you have to do to be successful.  If that means shying away from being in places that could make your image bad. 

Don’t go!

If you have to think about it wasn’t right for you in the first place. If you feel like it’s pulling teeth to be in places that make you feel uncomfortable. But makes your friends comfortable. Then you need to re-evaluate your circle.  

If they were your real friends they would know that you don’t like certain things and won’t invite you to these places.  You don’t need to be at every function.  Just like they don’t need to know every detail about your growth.  I would say just tell them the important things.  

It’s never ok to hide your success out of fear of what others think. 

 

So what is understood don’t need to be explained.